Is it a Man’s Job? Or is it a Woman’s Job?
Me and a few other guys had an intresting water cooler discussion the other day at work... It all came about when I brought up my upcoming marriage and how it was almost here! During the discussion I brought up how Misty and I want to have children. Of course right off the bat, one of the guys said "have fun changing those #%#%%^ diapers! HA!
That's where the conversation got interesting... I've already raised a daughter and I've had my fair share of dirty diapers! Did I enjoy it? Of course not haha And to be honest, I tried to steer away from it as often as I could... I think that's pretty natural don't you?
Anyway, one guy spoke up and said that the diaper changing was for the woman to handle and he asked me if I agreed? So I paused for a minute as I pondered... "Kinda" was my answer. The conversation then escalated to the, what's a woman's job around the house and what's a man's job around the house type discussion.
I won't get into the entire discussion we had, but it did make me think. And of course this topic has been debated over and over and over, but I've never blogged about it so here goes....
I realize that in today's world, and even the world we've lived for quite a few years, jobs, whether it be at the workplace or at home, should never be assigned to a particular gender. And I also realize that statement changes with geography, age, religion and many other factors. I don't think you could say anything is the "norm" anymore!
During the discussion, one guy made a point that his wife never did the yard work, the mechanical work on the vehicles etc etc... And he never did the cleaning, diaper changes etc etc. And he stated how that worked for them. BUT, he also stated that he thought that's the way it "should" be!
Of course the discussion went all over the place about who was right and who was wrong, who's responsibility fell on which jobs around the house etc etc...
So, what's Jake's opinion?
My opinion is... whatever works just do it! I don't have a problem cleaning, washing cloths or doing any type of housework. I don't mind changing diapers, feeding the baby or whatever comes along. And in all honesty, I really wouldn't want to see Misty have to get out and take care of the yard, work on my truck or her car if it's broken, fix the washer or dryer and that sort of thing.
I just feel like that's my place to take care of those things. Don't get me wrong, men AND women are perfectly capable of doing anything around the house, whether it be cleaning, changing diapers, or changing the oil in the car. And I know some women do those things and enjoy it!
I can also see where couples tend to argue over things like this... one of the guys in our discussion talked about how he and his wife argued about this sort of thing quite often. His argument was, if something breaks around the house, she expects him to take care of it. He took care of all the "outside work", and repairs around the home and that sort of thing. So he expected her to take care of the other jobs, washing cloths, changing diapers etc etc...
Again, I have no clear cut answer on this, other than what I've already stated.. Whatever works for you as a couple, then go for it!
I think Misty and I work together great! We've always pitched in to help each other and just take care of what needs to be taken care of. If it's something she can do, she'll do it. If it's something she can't handle, I'll do it and vice-versa.
So what's YOUR opinion?
How Do You Feel About "It's a Man's Job" or "It's a Woman's Job"?
Do you have these type discussions in your home?
SPEAK UP! Don't be SCARED to voice your opinion haha